tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post3988060609863323074..comments2013-05-13T17:50:01.766-05:00Comments on Mother Interrupted: Grief - Part 2 (The Adoptee)KristySearchinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04154155815657401289noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-70906047232404189432008-09-18T12:59:00.000-05:002008-09-18T12:59:00.000-05:00I blogged about this once where another adoptee fr...I blogged about this once where another adoptee friend told me that I will never stop hurting. As soon as she told me that, it seemed to heal a lot of wounds. I was searching and searching for something to heal me or make the hurt go away for good. Now I don't have to search and the stress is off my shoulders. I am starting to look at the future.<BR/><BR/>But there are those times, I get stuck back into the past and have to crawl my way out even though I would love to jump my way out.TheRightThinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15837391857751538498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-63813048780629823852008-09-12T21:03:00.000-05:002008-09-12T21:03:00.000-05:00Holly - Yep you're right perhaps they are broken :...Holly - Yep you're right perhaps they are broken :( What happened to my compassion? I sometimes forget that those who have wounded me the most were wounded once themselves. Hmmmm Food for thought! :)<BR/><BR/>Teri, I think in most cases if you can accept, you can heal. Problem still for me, acceptance may be a lifetime away. I know the pain is a part of me, a part of who I am. If I let go of it, I might "accept" what was taken from me, and that right now, seems worse than dealing with the pain, if that makes any sense.<BR/><BR/>Hugs!KristySearchinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04154155815657401289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-73096495313349147072008-09-12T15:29:00.000-05:002008-09-12T15:29:00.000-05:00Do you really think that there is healing? Isn't ...Do you really think that there is healing? Isn't it more a matter of just accepting it as a part of who we are and what has happened to put us where we are that we had no control over?<BR/><BR/>I suffered for years and agonized over the loss of my daughter. Even reunited didn't make the pain of the lost years go away, nor make her feelings of rejection by me disappear, even tho she knew I had no choice. She understood but it still didn't erase her feelings. I think all the understanding and compassion in the world isn't going to change the hurt and loss we feel. <BR/><BR/>I hurt for my daughter and for all adoptees who feel broken. First mother's and adoptees both feel different pains, but they both feel it none-the-less. I don't think time or therapy can make the past go away. It will always be there, we just have to learn how to live with it and move forward with our lives. <BR/><BR/>Teri BrownTeri Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04338352834586293431noreply@blogger.com