tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post4478308003103220474..comments2013-05-13T17:50:01.766-05:00Comments on Mother Interrupted: Stupid things people say...KristySearchinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04154155815657401289noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-77819697428778209042010-03-26T10:38:19.292-05:002010-03-26T10:38:19.292-05:00Interesting....I am adopted. I was never referred ...Interesting....I am adopted. I was never referred to as the "Adopted" child, but it never changed that fact. I'm sure he said that to you, probably not to his daughter. Chances are he didn't mean to make it seem as if he cared for her any less because she was adopted, but more so to try to "justify" her actions. You are a mom, do you ever do that? Not make excuses, but maybe say things like, she's hurting because...or she's got anger issues because.... Well,I do.<br />In defense of that adoptive father...to me, he was crying out and venting. I have a 16 yr. old and do it all the time. Haven't you read the Primal Wound? I'm sure he wasn't blaming her birth roots for her issues, maybe just her acting out to some of the hurt/rage inside that she was going through due to the "relinquishment" by her birthmother. Makes sense to me. Children go through many emotions, especially as teens...and for many reasons, but do not dismiss the fact that an adopted child, no matter what reason they were adopted, feels on a very deep level an inability to receive love, and that causes hurt.<br />Sara-SantaClaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-51097289563352351952010-03-26T10:35:36.767-05:002010-03-26T10:35:36.767-05:00Interesting....I am adopted. I was never referred ...Interesting....I am adopted. I was never referred to as the "Adopted" child, but it never changed that fact. I'm sure he said that to you, probably not to his daughter. Chances are he didn't mean to make it seem as if he cared for her any less because she was adopted, but more so to try to "justify" her actions. You are a mom, do you ever do that? Not make excuses, but maybe say things like, she's hurting because...or she's got anger issues because.... Well,I do.<br />In defense of that adoptive father...to me, he was crying out and venting. I have a 16 yr. old and do it all the time. Haven't you read the Primal Wound? I'm sure he wasn't blaming her birth roots for her issues, maybe just her acting out to some of the hurt/rage inside that she was going through due to the "relinquishment" by her birthmother. Makes sense to me. Children go through many emotions, especially as teens...and for many reasons, but do not dismiss the fact that an adopted child, no matter what reason they were adopted, feels on a very deep level an inability to receive love.<br />Sara-SantaClaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-30263074838995167862008-10-09T08:58:00.000-05:002008-10-09T08:58:00.000-05:00I could say it was because I emotionally had reaso...I could say it was because I emotionally had reasoning for not, but honestly it was because my 18 year old son desperately needs a job and is interviewing with this man's company. I know awful, huh... My son has been out of work 2 months and he needs the job before he loses his truck. That's the honest answer as unpleasant as it is...KristySearchinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04154155815657401289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-81624669546916937722008-10-08T16:53:00.000-05:002008-10-08T16:53:00.000-05:00So why didn't you say something? Why didn't you a...So why didn't you say something? Why didn't you ask him why he said that?TheRightThinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15837391857751538498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1544364629529440682.post-57488921572388344352008-10-07T18:06:00.000-05:002008-10-07T18:06:00.000-05:00Oh man. And he wonders why his daughter has issues...Oh man. And he wonders why his daughter has issues. Gah.<BR/>Couldn't be the attitude her parents have taken, eh? <BR/>Poor child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com