Thursday, November 6, 2008

The eggshells hurt my feet

I am tired of walking on eggshells, trying so hard not to offend. My feelings are real to me. That's why I blog. I am in pain. I see other first mothers leaving the blogosphere due to the harsh criticism of others. I see them walk because away they are unable to express their pain without someone telling them they do not have the right to hurt. As if we should forever suffer for our "crime" of losing our child to adoption.

Geesh, people, we all are hurt by this. My pain, my speaking of my pain, does not make yours less valid. I don't expect you to heal mine as I cannot heal yours. I don't expect you to believe that if I could change it I would.

What I do expect, is the same respect I give to you. I read you, I learn from you, but never once do I attempt to tell you that you don't have a right to your feelings. That you aren't deserving of the ability to express and heal.

I have lived guilt enough for any person and enough is enough...

I'm puttin on some shoes...

3 comments:

holly said...

Keep speaking your truth!
Screw the eggshells! You have every right to express yourself, as well as to be validated!

Not sure what kind of person who say that 1st moms don't have a right to hurt - sounds like some folks who have some inner work of their own to do....
Loves ya Girl!!!

KristySearching said...

Thank you Holly my darlin!

Sometimes you just gotta vent!

Big Hugs!

DENISE ROESSLE said...

Me too, Kristy, me too. I am so glad to have found your blog and will keep reading.